Random Thought on Father’s Day

  It is very important to appreciate your father while he is still alive.   Even if he gets on your nerves. I recently was reading the May issue of vibe that had articles with Bow Wow and that Chris-Rihanna domestic violence drama. One of the things that stuck out to me on both of them was in a nutshell the lacking of positive father figure role models in the lives of these young, well liked, overly popular entertainers. Bow Wow’s dad is an alcoholic that he doesn’t apparently have much contact with. The interview showcased him at an ESPN Sports Zone talking about he wants a “wifey” and a serious relationship yet he gets his assistant to holla at the cuties that he has the wondering eyes for during the interview. The saga of Chris and Rihanna drama has been talked about TOO DEATH but their family life is rather interesting that perhaps shaped the course of what occurred that Feb Grammy weekend in LA. Chris Brown dealt with an abusive step father (who denied abuse in the household when trying to capitalize on his stepson’s ordeal in interviews) and Rihanna’s father was a heavy drug user. There is very much irony between their life experiences dealing with male figure heads and the way they deal with their lives and opposite sex in their young adult lives. I pray that hopefully with some time and wisdom they do get it together to realize what is important.

But the point of that example of those 3 young entertainers was to highlight the important it is for a father or father figure to play a positive role in the life of their kids so that way they hopefully grow up productive adults better able to deal with relationships (be it friendship or romantic) with the opposite sex. Sadly there are far too many young man and women who aren’t as famous as Bow Wow, Rihanna or Chris Brown dealing with similiar issues of not so great father figures in their lives it’s just that they aren’t known!!

Even with my dad sometimes getting on my nerves and being at times controlling with me (even as an adult) I do understand that for him it all comes from a place of love, concern and care for his child and wanting the best for me!!

If you have a good relationship with your father and mother appreciate it to the fullest and enjoy it.  If your relationship isn’t soo great and they are still alive try your best to come to a resolution so you can enjoy the rest of your life with them.  If they have gone on to their eternal home appreciate the time you did have with them and become at peace by counseling or prayer on anything unresolved with them.  Life is too short to carry on grief and pain!!